Friday, February 5, 2010

book #1
since Pappa God has put musings of an author on my heart for some time now, I am both grateful and excited to say that I believe we not have a catylistic idea that will bring together the first book.

It ill be titled
"TRE"
(keys to an amazing life from your loving Pappa)

I am now wrestling with ideas that will become the KEYS contained in the book

here are the random ideas from my piece of paper...
lead yourself, attitude, believe, forgive, direction, obey, openness, friends, rest, character, fun (balance)

It will have lots of stories from your Pappa's life that you can learn from, stand on, and reach higher than I have. I will keep organizing these thoughts in Pappa God's presence over the next month and then begin the fun journey of Pappa God speaking through me, to you!

How to be a son


Luke 15:11-31
It is the infamous story that we call "Prodigal Son." The Bible says there was a man with two sons. One of them goes to His Dad and asks him for his share of the inheritance and skips town going on a rampage doing all he can to ruin his life. He comes to his senses and thinks that he is no longer worthy to be his Dad's son and decides instead to be one of his servants. I have done this in my life after being a rebellious teenager, I realized how GOOD my Papa God is and I returned to him, and was welcomed back with a party of God's unmerited favor and enjoyed a season of wonderful time in His presence, were he spoke to me and through me in mighty ways, all in spite of me and not because of me.

At some point as I learned more of the things of God, I eventually became the OTHER brother! It was very subtle but my value or identity slowly became in what I was doing for God and what I was not doing that was bad, anymore. Now looking back on even a few years ago, when I was the Youth Pastor at The Rock, I was fault finding and critical of the humanity in other leaders, because they had not "Earned" what I had earned. I am now discovering God's increasing pleasure in being with me as I relinquish the false notion that I need to have a position or opinion about those around me. Am I Angry because my Papa is Good? (See Matthew 20) I live as His son, and all that is His is mine. It is not earned with my daily tasks, in fact they are not my daily tasks at all! I am working in His fields. The disconnect from the principal of Heaven that this brother was experiencing I have also experienced. His focus was on being diligent to earn the affections of His Father. His drive is that one day, it will all be his. Humanity is driven to please others in order to get something from them (money, advice, time, approval, friendship.) Yet the kingdom of God does NOT operate this way. Our father is not going to pass away. It will never become solely ours! Yet, many of us treat our relationship with Papa this way and are trying to get something from Him that He has already given us. Thinking that if we do a good job He will answer more of our prayers, give us a promotion at work, or bless our efforts that He never authored in the first place. His ways are not our ways, His thought are NOT our thoughts.... they are ALWAYS better.

31His father said to him, ‘Look, dear son, you and I are veryclose, and everything I have is yours. 32We had to celebrate this happy day. For your brother was dead and has come back to life!He was lost, but now he is found!’”



Sunday, January 10, 2010

emerging leaders

Lou,

For some reason (perhaps the Holy Spirit) I keep recalling the conversation you and I had at Coffee in Ken Caryl several months ago. You asked me the question "What percentage of time do you think a leader should spend on his/her gifts on a weekly basis?" I gave you the John Maxwell answer of 80% on gifts and 20% on weaknesses, but then you gave me context.

You were referring to 2 young leaders on staff at your church that you wanted to help mentor as leaders and managers. I do not remember the specifics but I wanted to share 2 keys to maximizing leadership potential.

Skills a Leader MUST have.

Theses are skills a leader who oversees anything must be good at and strive to improve. It does not matter what an individual's gifts are or are not, these skills are necessary for anyone that is directly responsible for a group of people and there cumulative score will directly relate to there effectiveness in getting the job done.

A. See The Big Picture: Do they think outside of their direct responsibilities, and see how there part affects the whole organization? Leaders who are very good at seeing the big picture develop departments at add value to other departments and therefore improve the entire organization.

B. Self-Motivation: Do they not only create a clear vision for there team, but go the extra mile to initiate? Can you say the word and the job is done, or do they need babysitting until a task is complete. One great test of leaders is when someone gives them a task outside of their gifting and sees if they not only take the ball but make sure they score for the team. (Follow-through can be scored here too! Do they get the job done? With Excellence?)

C. Self-Leadership: This builds on self-motivation. Do they understand that Leaders develop daily and not in a day, and do THEY (not you) initiate study and proactively schedule time to invest in themselves? Do they read and talk about what they are learning to be better? Are they Teachable? Can they take advise without having to defend themselves?

D. People Skills: Do they genuinely care about other people and effectively show and/or communicate that to them? Most importantly their team and/or coworkers. Many people I have coached have put created the feeling in others that they were cold and did not care. When I bring it up to the leader I often times find that it is not true, they really do love and care about their team, BUT that doesn't cut it! If your too busy to care then you are too busy! We are in the people business! Walk slowly through the crowd, and care MORE about each individual on your team than you do about their work getting done.

E. Delegation: Can they effectively assign work, objectives, or most importantly people to someone based on that persons gifts and skills? Do they Follow-up with them on a regular basis, to see how they are doing and offer support and guidance? Delegation + Follow-up = Multiplication whereas Delegation - follow-up = Division! Creative, outgoing types have to work hard at follow-up otherwise they are DUMPING not delegating.

F. Time/Task/Money Management: Can they be a good manager over the resources that have been entrusted to them? Can they organize their day to get stuff done? Are they always stressed out because they forget appointments, deadlines, or that there is actually the same amount of traffic on the same route they travel to the same place every day? Manage your life or it will manage you! Effective leaders are proactive with their lives not reactive.

Print multiple copies of this and write the name of each of your team member on top of each copy. Then score each of them in these 6 areas using a 1-10 scale. 1 = no evidence of skill 5 = Average level of a skill 10 = Mastery of a skill. Total possible score is 60 pts. If an individual scores 30 or below they fall into the DEVELOPING LEADER Category talked about in Point #2. If they score 31-45 they fall into the EMERGING LEADER category talked about in point number #2. If they score 45-60 they fall into the DEVELOPED LEADER CATEGORY talked about in point number 2.

I encourage you to score your team members as a business consultant, not their mentor, coach, friend, etc. Also, DO NOT consider their age or background when scoring them, be objective! Also, since good leaders almost always lead by example, have your overseer score you, so that your team is more open to the results when you share with them. You should then follow-up with a one on one meeting and share your thoughts with them and ask them what they think. If they are not open to it refer them to letter C! If they are still not open to it, create a plan to move them out, otherwise they will hold you back.


3 LIFE-STAGES OF A LEADER

(Working Backwards)

3. The Developed Leader: This person thoroughly understands not only what needs to be done but how to best position resources to maximize not only their own potential, but also that of there team.

70% of their time should be spent on there greatest 3 strengths and/or gifts. They understand that to make the biggest impact they have to spend the majority of their time on what they are good at. They need to be encouraged to spend time developing and honing their gifts.

20% of their time should be managing their weaknesses. This time should including meeting with key team members and delegating tasks, objectives, or people to other team members based on that team members strengths, and yes that which is delegated should consist of much of said leader's weaknesses.

10% of their time should be focused on Self-leadership. Meeting with Mentors, reading books, and attending conferences that challenge them and create intentional growth in the leader. They should create and manage their own growth plan. They thoroughly understand that even though they may be called a DEVELOPED LEADER, a leader is never fully developed, and they daily prove this out.

2. The Emerging Leader: This person is in transition between developing and developed and therefore an intermediate step in how they spend their time should be in operation. They understand and are developing the skills a leader must need, but they are not at a level yet where they need very little supervision.

45% of there time should be spent on what they believe are their top 3 strengths and or gifts. They may find out during this stage that, what they thought was their gift, really is not. Leaders can "False-test" and often times find out later that what they thought they were good at, is really not the case. They need lots of objective feedback on their perceived strengths and weaknesses. MAybe they really are a good communicator but thought they were not because they are nervous due to lack of experience?

45% of there time should be spend on managing their weaknesses and honing the skills every leader MUST have. Get that score up, so later in life you will be an amazing leader.

10% of their time should be focused on self leadership. Meeting with Mentors, reading books, and attending conferences that challenge them and create intentional growth in the leader. They have developed their own growth plan but still need to be held accountable, and time to time need their coach to assign readings, teachings, or sessions that will sharpen those skills that every leader MUST have!

1. The Developing leader: They have the raw materials, but they need skilled leaders to help them craft their lives into something that will leave a lasting impact and maximize every ounce of their potential. You have probably already identified their perceived strengths or gifts otherwise you would not have hired them. If strengths are unsure, then start them with the list of skills and see what emerges over time. This not only lets you see what their gifts are, but it also develops character. We develop character by doing the things no one wants to do when no one is looking (or at least we think they are not looking, meanwhile you are!)

70% of their time should be spent on managing the responsibilities given to them by their overseer, and becoming more effective at getting them done by developing the SKILLS EVERY LEADER MUST HAVE.

20% of their time should be spent on discovering their possible areas of strength or gifts and trying them out when opportunities present themselves. Great coaches look for opportunities in practice or exhibition games to try out the new kid! Then Give them feedback, and give them another shot. They need a safe place to fail, over and over, so they can grow without the pressure that they will someday have.

10% of their time? You guessed it! Self-Leadership. Teach them from the beginning that this is VERY important. Developing leaders need to have a growth plan made for them and regularly scheduled meetings to make sure that they are following their plan and developing.

This was just what I came up with on a Sunday afternoon during some milk and cookies. Feel free to edit it how you see fit and as always call with questions. Also, please give me your feedback so I can be better.

Thanks for being a great Father-in-law, and a DEVELOPED LEADER that is making an impact that will echo for eternity.

love,

david

Thursday, August 20, 2009

feeling fear and doing nothing until i hear from you

this is all be unpacked soon in a few blog entries, so think of this as a not to myself to unpack all that is going on within my spirit.

Tre, this is a fascinating time in your Papa's life. You re at Oma's house right now because Mima is at her internship and then has to go to class at Metro. She is finishing her BSW and will be done Next May. Papa is spending Wednesday with God because your Mima and I are getting away for the weekend tomorrow and I will not be able to do my usual Friday with Papa God.

I want to talk to you about "Feel The Fear and Do it Anyway" and also "Do nothing until you hear from me." So that will be the Title of the next two blogs.

Friday, August 7, 2009

The Three Questions: Closing Charge

May you leave this place believing in a God that consumes your daily reality. May you have experiences with God that become fuel for you to dream bigger that you have ever dreamed for you and your family. May your life display to the world your Papa God who is daily doing above all than you can imagine. May you give and invest your money in the things and people that God inspires you with. May you daily carry someone to the feet of Jesus, and may you develop friendships that will overcome a world of opposition in order to get you to God!

Question 3: What do you invest?

We each have ability, time, and money. We can argue that others have more in some departments than we do, but the fact is we all have all three. It is what we each choose to do with each of these three things that determines how much of the reality of God is present in our daily lives.

If you and I are not investing our ability, time, and money into people and purposes that God places in our heart, then something is wrong. If we are not doing that then why are we living?

In Mark Chapter 2 we find a fascinating story.
Jesus was inside a house teaching people and praying for those that were ill or disabled. The place was packed so much that there was not even room for one more person even at the door. Four men arrived carrying their friend on a mat because he was paralyzed. The bible says that they could not get to Jesus through the crowd so they climbed on the roof, made a hole, and lowered their friend down and placed him at the feet of Jesus.

Now, really picture this whole episode in your mind. These 4 guys fight through a crowd and have to hoist this guy up onto the roof. Maybe they dropped him once in the process (due to existing paralysis no further damage was done.) Then one translation of the Bible 
says that they were up on the roof "DIGGING THROUGH IT." I am sure more than one person was like "hey what do you think you are doing?" Perhaps some men even tried to physically stop them from making progress due to their destructive behavior and serious inconsideration for those that have been there for hours. Yet despite all this, the man was healed that day. Jesus said it was because of "their" faith, that is the faith of the man's friends that brought him to the feet of Jesus. 

So, what would cause those four men to overcome such opposition and rational thought to bring their friend to Jesus? There is only one answer that makes sense to me. The Man on the mat mattered more to those four men then all they would face to get their friend to Jesus.

So, who would carry you?

I think in our lives we all become paralyzed in some form at different times. We need our friends to carry us to Jesus when we cannot get there on our own, and the amount we invest in our friends will determine how much opposition they will overcome for us.

Life has a way of making us too busy to have time to care for those that matter the most. Yet, one of the ways the world will be drawn into relationship with God is by your example. Go find somebody on a stretcher and carry them to Jesus.

I have to go, I just thought of somebody! bye.

Question 2:What Do You Experience?

Phil 3:10amp
For my determined purpose is that I may know Him that I may progressively become more deeply and intimately acquainted with Him, perceiving and recognizing and understanding the wonders of His person more strongly and more clearly, and that I may in that same way come to know the power out-flowing from His resurrection. That I may so share in His sufferings as to be continually transformed in spirit into His likeness even to His death, in the hope.

You and I must CHOOSE to not only believe that God's presence and power exists in our DAILY lives (see Qustion # 1) but also we must CHOOSE to experience HIS presence constantly. 

In 1 Samuel Chapters 16 & 17 we get an insight into how powerful our obedience really is.

Saul the anointed king of Israel obeyed the mandate from God to attack the enemy but used is own judgement as an excuse to not FULLY obey the voice of God. We then find the man of God (aka Prophet) Samuel confronting Saul about his disobedience. After lying first, the king then admitted that he had not FULLY obeyed God and offered to make it right, but it was TOO late! The Bible says that the Spirit of the Lord left Saul that day and NEVER returned! Also, the man of God left Saul that day and never visited him again. This is what you call a really really bad day! What happened to forgiveness? That is a whole other subject. Then we see in the next chapter that Saul would have David (later called "a man after God's own heart") come and play the harp for him. The Bible says that this was the only time that saul could experience true peace and not be tormented by the evil spirit.

I want to be the man of God that brings the presence of God (including: love, power, wisdom, healing, peace) to each and every situation and relationship I encounter on a daily basis. I do not want to be the one that needs others to bring His presence because of my disobedience to the Holy Spirit.

If we come to church to visit with God this mean by our own admittance that He was not with us prior to coming in the door.

When you spend time with God do you attempt to escape your reality or to bring more of His reality into yours? In the eyes of God, His kingdom and presence (provision and relationship) is SO much more REAL than what you think is real!

Proverb 25:2 It is God's privilege to conceal things and the king's privilege to discover them.
Our experiences with God (aka prayer time) are an opportunity to discover what He has hidden for us to find. Remember that we are his kids! When I hide something for Tre (our 3 year old) I do not rent excavating equipment and hide under tons of earth and concrete. I hide it on a low tree branch (where he can reach it) or in his bed. Jesus told us that to enter into the kingdom of God we must become like little children. So in the eyes and mind of God you and I are like three year olds running around. His joy (like mine is with Tre) is in our Discovering what He has hidden for us. Prayer is not a time to remind God of how miserable you are and what you need. He is not amazed to hear that you need a job, money, or whatever. Also, he is not impressed by the way you pray. To God you are not smart! You are like.... THREE. So your time that you spend with your Papa God is priceless to Him just as is every minute I have 
with my three year old.

Ephesians 3 tells us the God is able to do above what we can ask, think, imagine, or dream. Perhaps the purpose of our time with Him is to persuade our hearts to believe for experiences that are at the limit of our cognitive ability. Should this be true, perhaps our lives should be about Him daily bringing realities into our lives that our beyond our minds ability to fathom!

Let's get going we have some mind blowing to do. Helmets reccomended!